Embracing Being "That Parent"

If you’re a parent of a neurodivergent child, chances are you’ve felt the weight of the label - That Parent. The one who calls, who emails, who follows up again. The one who won’t take “let’s just wait and see” as an answer. The one who sits in meetings, advocating, explaining, pushing for support, and demanding action.

And if that’s you, let me say this loudly: Wear that label with pride.

You know your child better than anyone else. You see the struggles that others might overlook, the exhaustion behind their smiles, the bravery it takes for them to show up in a world that isn’t always built for them. You know when they’re not coping, even if they appear “fine” to the outside world. And when systems, schools, or professionals don’t see it yet, you make them see it.

If you are a parent who refuses to let your child’s challenges be dismissed or minimised, you are not “difficult.” You are determined.

If you are a parent who walks into daycare or the school office yet again, asking for a meeting, requesting adjustments, and explaining (for what feels like the hundredth time) what your child needs - you are not “too much.” You are exactly enough for your child.

If you are a parent who spends more time communicating with teachers, therapists, and administrators than you do your own friends - you are not “obsessive.” You are ensuring your child gets the support they deserve.

If you are a parent who refuses to let others question your child’s needs, identity, or struggles - you are not “overreacting.” You are protecting your child from being misunderstood, overlooked, or left behind.

Yes, the world might label us as That Parent, but if that means being the advocate my child needs, ensuring their voice is heard, and making space for them in a world that wasn’t designed with them in mind, then I will proudly be That Parent - every single day.

When our children look back, I want them to know they were fiercely protected, endlessly supported, and deeply loved. I want them to remember that their voice mattered because we made sure it did.

So if you ever feel like you’re too much, if you ever question whether you’re pushing too hard, if you ever feel the weight of that label pressing down on you, remember this: You are exactly who your child needs.

And that is something to be proud of.