Let’s Talk About Neuro-Affirming Language (And Why It’s Time We Retire a Few Old Phrases)

If you grew up in the '90s, chances are you’ve heard or used some pretty wild language when it comes to neurodivergence.

• “Normal”

• “Special needs”

• “Suffering from...”

• “Obsessed with dinosaurs”

• “Can’t sit still to save their life”

• "Too much red cordial"

  
  

Here’s the thing: most of us weren’t trying to be unkind. It’s just the language we were given, but that doesn’t mean it’s the language we should keep using because language evolves — and if we’re truly committed to making the world more inclusive for every kind of brain, then it’s time our words caught up.

What Is Neuro-Affirming Language?

Neuro-affirming language is a way of speaking with and about neurodivergent people that’s rooted in respect, compassion, and acceptance. Instead of treating differences as deficits or disorders to be “fixed,” it acknowledges that some brains are wired differently and that difference is valid, valuable, and worthy of understanding.

It’s not about being “politically correct" or "woke". It’s about being accurate, kind, and respectful.

When we use neuro-affirming language, we’re not just being mindful of words. We’re reshaping perceptions. We’re helping neurodivergent kids grow up feeling seen and safe, rather than feeling like they’re a problem to be solved.

Why Language Matters

Words don’t just describe our world; they build it. If we constantly refer to someone’s brain as “disordered,” we imply they’re broken. If we talk about kids “throwing tantrums” instead of experiencing sensory overload or emotional dysregulation, we shift blame instead of offering support. That’s the subtle power of language. It can either deepen shame or open the door to empathy.

So… What Should We Say Instead?

Here are a few simple swaps that go a long way:

• Instead of “normal,” say “neurotypical.”

• Instead of “person with autism,” say “autistic person” (unless someone prefers otherwise).

• Instead of “suffers from ADHD,” try “an ADHDer” or "ADHD person"

• Instead of “special needs,” try “accessibility needs” or “support needs.”

• Instead of “meltdown,” try “sensory overload” or “shutdown.”

• Instead of “obsessed,” try “deeply passionate” or “hyperfocus.”

  
  

These changes may seem small, but they have a significant ripple effect. When kids hear affirming language about themselves, they internalise those messages. When adults model this language, it normalises understanding and empathy.

You can also download The Giggle Garden’s Neuro-Affirming Language Guide — it’s packed with friendly, easy-to-understand swaps and explanations to support more inclusive conversations.

What If I Get It Wrong?

You will. We all do.

Changing your language isn’t about perfection — it’s about progress. If someone corrects you, thank them. If you realise you said something outdated, reframe it. The goal isn’t to tiptoe around words, it’s to show up with care and openness.

This Isn’t About Trends. It’s About People.

Neuro-affirming language isn’t just a checklist or a buzzword. It’s about creating environments — in homes, classrooms, workplaces, and communities — where neurodivergent people feel safe, supported, and respected for who they are, not who they’re expected to be.

If your vocabulary is due for an upgrade, you’re not alone. The good news? Growth is allowed. In fact, it’s encouraged.

When we change the way we speak, we change the way we think. And when we change the way we think, we change the world.