Tips For Creating A Neuroinclusive Christmas

Christmas is a time for family, joy, and celebration—but for neurodiverse families, the season can also bring unique challenges. With a little thought and planning, you can create a neuroinclusive Christmas where everyone, from toddlers to grandparents, can feel comfortable, celebrated, and included.

For this blog, we’ll primarily refer to ADHD and autism when discussing neurodiversity, as these are often part of the holiday conversation in many families. However, it’s important to note that neurodiversity is a broad and beautiful umbrella term encompassing many experiences, and accommodations should always be tailored to the individuals in your life.

Whether you're raising neurodivergent children or hosting neurodiverse guests, here are some practical and heartwarming tips to make this holiday season magical for all.

1. Quality Time Over Quantity

Instead of packing your calendar with endless events, focus on meaningful moments. ADHD and autistic individuals often thrive when overstimulation is minimised, so swap jam-packed schedules for intentional time together. A quiet craft session, a family movie night, or baking cookies can be just as festive as a big party—without the sensory overload.

2. Embrace Predictability in a Season of Change

The festive season can throw routines out the window, but predictability helps many neurodivergent individuals feel secure. Share plans in advance: when and where events will happen, who will attend, and how long they’ll last. Visual schedules, countdowns, or even a festive checklist can help build excitement while reducing anxiety.

3. Forget the “Perfect Christmas”

Society's idea of a "perfect Christmas" is often full of unnecessary pressures—beautifully coordinated decorations, a lavish meal, or perfectly behaved kids. This year, ditch the unattainable and focus on what really matters: creating a Christmas that works for your family. Whether that means Christmas PJs all day or skipping the big meal for pizza, embrace the joy of doing what feels right for your crew.

4. Familiar Foods Are Festive Too

For many autistic individuals, unfamiliar foods can be a big challenge. Offer to bring familiar dishes to gatherings, or ensure there are “safe” food options available. This small step can mean the difference between a stressful meal and a peaceful one. A side of plain pasta or a favourite snack at the table? That's festive magic right there.

5. Put Boundaries in Place

The holidays can bring out unsolicited opinions. Set clear boundaries around social norms that may not work for your neurodiverse family, like insisting on eye contact, sitting still for long periods, or unwrapping gifts “on cue.” Politely but firmly let others know that flexibility and understanding are key to a joyful celebration.

6. Schedule Downtime

The festive season is full of bright lights, loud music, and new experiences—all of which can be overstimulating. Plan breaks into your day, whether that’s stepping outside for fresh air, finding a quiet space, or even a pre-planned “time-out” area where neurodivergent family members can decompress.

7. Ask How You Can Help

If you’re hosting, ask your neurodivergent guests or their caregivers what accommodations can make the day magical. This might mean dimming the lights, skipping scented candles, or offering a quieter space to eat. Small adjustments show care and create an environment where everyone feels welcome.

A neuroinclusive Christmas isn’t about perfection—it’s about connection. By prioritising comfort, understanding, and love over societal expectations, you can create a holiday where everyone feels seen, supported, and celebrated.

This year, let’s unwrap the gift of inclusivity and make the festive season truly joyful for all—one accommodation, kind gesture, and festive moment at a time.