Why Language Matters In Neurodiversity

At The Giggle Garden, we believe language is more than just words; it's one of the most powerful tools we have to shape how people feel about themselves and the world around them, and when it comes to neurodiversity, how we speak really matters.

The way we talk about neurodivergent people, including those who are autistic, ADHD, dyslexic, and more, can either promote acceptance or reinforce outdated, harmful ideas.

Whether you’re a parent, educator, therapist or friend, here's why language matters in neurodiversity so much, and what you can do to make it more inclusive.

Identity-first language.

Many in the autistic community prefer identity-first language. For example, "Autistic person" rather than "person with autism" or "person has autism".

When we use affirming language, we help others feel seen and safe. Saying someone "suffers from autism" suggests pain, tragedy or that it's a communicable illness. Saying someone is autistic recognises their identity.

It’s about embracing autism as a fundamental part of who they are, not something to be separated from them. The best thing you can do? Ask individuals what they prefer.

Avoid harmful or outdated terms.

Some people grew up hearing terms like “Asperger’s,” “ASD,” “deficits,” or even “disorder” in clinical or school settings. These were the norm across generations, often used by professionals and society alike. Relearning language is part of creating a more inclusive world, and when we give each other grace to do so, we open the door for growth across all ages and communities.

Outdated language like "normal," "high/low functioning," or "special needs" can also be hurtful or misleading. Try using "neurotypical," "support needs," or describing specific strengths and challenges instead.

Symbols matter too.

The puzzle piece has a long and complicated history. Many in the autistic community now reject it as it implies that their community is 'broken', 'missing pieces' or requires 'putting back together'. Instead, symbols like the rainbow infinity loop are embraced as more inclusive and affirming.

Understand behaviour as communication.

Instead of calling behaviours "strange," try asking what they mean. Stimming, for example, is often a way to self-regulate, not something that needs to be stopped. Additionally, non-speaking does not mean no desire to communicate and exemplifies that there are more than traditional verbal ways to communicate in the world.

Labels aren't the whole story.

While labels can help access support, they don’t capture the whole person. Each neurodivergent child has unique interests, talents, and ways of experiencing the world.

Outdated conversations like “ADHD is just little boys with too much sugar” or “Autistic people lack empathy” are not only inaccurate but also damaging. Neurodivergent people are diverse, dynamic, and capable. It's time we let go of the clichés.

You don't have to get it perfect.

No one has all the answers. What matters most is listening, learning, and being open to growth. If you slip up, apologise, learn, and keep going. We don’t need to be experts to be kind, thoughtful, and inclusive. When we model this for our children, they learn to speak and think in the same way.

Words carry weight, and they have the power to create more inclusive classrooms, communities, and conversations. Let’s be mindful of our words, open to feedback, and always ready to grow.

When we speak with care, we help the next generation feel seen, supported, and celebrated.